Dads can protect against toxic stress
More dads are challenging old ideas of fatherhood with new ways of giving support and creating emotional connection. By sharing more love, attention, and affection with kids at an early age, dads are helping to prevent toxic stress and giving their children a stronger start.
What kids see
These three California dads are showing support and affection. See how they do it, through the eyes of their children.
Dads talk about fatherhood
“Fatherhood isn’t just about the traditional physical protection but also emotional protection.”
–Diego, a San Bernardino dad
“I'm never going to stop showing love, going to give those extra hugs and kisses. And I don't care who is watching.”
–Matthew, a San Diego dad
“Being a parent is an opportunity for me to grow along with them too.”
–Lucas, a Bay Area dad
Keep it going
Doing things differently can be hard, but it’s worth it. A new kind of parenting takes a new kind of strength.
Being emotionally open with your kids helps them to be happier and more successful—so keep exercising your dad strength.
5 ways you can flex your emotional muscles to be present for your child
Validate their feelings
Talking openly about feelings helps kids accept their emotions and work through them instead of acting out.
Listen to them
Feeling heard gives kids a sense of trust. It can lead to improved social skills too.
Show love through play
Playing together is like speaking your child’s language, which brings you closer together.
Give more affection
Showing kids affection helps them grow up to be more confident and better equipped to handle conflict.
Make the most of time together
Spending more time together leads children to be happier and more successful in school.
You don’t have to figure out fatherhood alone
No matter how prepared you are to be a dad, it’s always helpful to have a little extra support. Every county in California has a local First 5 Commission where you can meet other dads, pick up tips, or even get advice on co-parenting.
Wherever you live in California, a First 5 County Commission is there to help you. These 58 county commissions can connect you with resources in your community that meet the needs of your family.
More resources for dads
First 5 California isn’t the only program for dads! Other state and national organizations are out there helping dads too. Their offerings range from support groups to fun activities, so visit their sites to learn more.
Are you a professional?
Connect with other early childhood organizations, see curricula, and more.
